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Do you think you’ve found them? Are you unsure about your choice? Read this.
I wrote an article earlier this month that gave advice about being the right one before you go searching. That being said, a lot of us feel ready to pursue a serious relationship, or we might even be considering our current partner as someone we want to stick with.
First of all, there is nothing wrong with asking the question ‘how do you know?’. Often though we are met with the corny advice ‘You know when you know.’
Except that’s not true.
I’ve dated plenty of people that I thought were ‘The One’ at one point or another and that’s not because of bad judgement skills, but just because of underdeveloped knowledge about the other person. …
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Let’s have a closer look at that job description.
Many of us fall into the trap of believing that once we find ‘the one’ all of our problems will go away. Because we have an unrealistic idea of what a spouse is supposed to do, we can often assign them jobs that don’t actually belong to them.
Having a partner is great, but unfortunately for everyone, no human being is perfect. It turns out that you shouldn’t hold your partner to a standard that you won’t hold yourself to.
Here are some things that your partner shouldn’t be to you.
Your partner isn’t your only friend.
This one seems self-explanatory. You should have a few different friends that you can trust, rely on, and talk to about things that your husband shouldn’t be involved in. …
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Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level?
Many of us are familiar with the concept of SWOT analysis. It’s something that is commonly used for personal development or in business environments.
It’s considered a great way to figure out what you’re doing well and what’s not going so great.
That’s why I’m recommending you do one for your romantic relationships. This way, you can take a look at your relationship, see what you are doing well and see what needs work.
Reduce risks to use some fancy business lingo.
So what is a SWOT analysis
For those unfamiliar with the term, a SWOT analysis is a 2x2 grid that lets you examine your Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats. …
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How to survive being a world apart
Full disclosure. I am not currently in a long-distance relationship, but my husband and I were so I know how to survive one.
I desperately hoped that by the time I got around to writing this article, it could just be about dating normally in a long-distance relationship. The pandemic had other plans. My procrastination and hope have made this post late, and for that, I am deeply sorry.
Here are some of the things my husband and I did to help survive a long-distance relationship.
Talk every day.
There might’ve been a few days where we skipped this one, but generally, we talked not only every day but almost all of the time. …
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Stop looking for them, start being them.
Most of us grow up looking for prince or princess charming. As a girl, it was instilled in me from a young age that the best thing I could do for myself was find a good husband. I was raised in a Christian family so this isn’t an unusual school of thought. Though even in secular circles people find themselves having the same values instilled. I mean, we all grew up watching Disney movies, didn’t we? We all believed that happily ever after was what every good person deserved.
Most of us grew up believing that love was something that made us whole. …
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2020 has been garbage fire, let’s do what we can with the last month.
The world has been burning, and I, for one, have felt the flames this year.
I started this year, the same as most people, feeling distraught about forest fires. I spent my birthday in lockdown. I spend my grandfather’s 80th birthday in lockdown and the birthday of basically all of my family members since that in lockdown. Now with Christmas around the corner, I’ll be spending it, you guessed right! In lockdown.
A measly Skype call doesn’t ever feel like enough when you live in an entirely different country. …
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Here’s what I learned.
About a month and a half ago, I posted an article that explained why I wanted to take a break from writing. A quick recap of the situation is that I took a break because I wanted a summer holiday before my university started again. It’s safe to say that I accomplished that goal. I took some time off and focused on doing what I found exciting, interesting or fun.
Here’s what I learnt.
How to play the ukulele
We’ve had a ukulele sitting around the house for a while. It was a gift from my sister for Christmas. My husband mostly plays the guitar, so he picked it up every now and again, so it wasn’t entirely unloved but definitely wasn’t used as much as an instrument should be. …
but just for a month or two, chill out.
I hope you’ll forgive me for my sudden departure but I have some very exciting news. For me, not for you… unless you’re invested in me taking some time out to focus on things that I love.
I’ve been writing on Medium for a while. To be honest I’m not entirely sure how long but it’s been for at least over a year, maybe longer. I kinda enter a time void and I’m not very good at remembering start dates.
Needless to say that I’ve had a few breaks, some for mental health, some for travel over this time and I’m about to take another one. …
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Even if you’re already a professional.
For those of you who don’t know Camp NaNoWriMo is currently ongoing. There are a few brave souls who are battling their way through various word count goals. Mine happens to be 20,000, but yours doesn’t have to be. Camp allows writers to set your own goals unlike the more traditional 50,000 words NaNoWriMo in November.
Your goal will need to depend on your own schedule and availability, but I encourage you to go for the full 50,000 in November.
Consistency
Often we writers have on and off days, but an activity like this with a community of other writers can hold us accountable to returning to the keyboard day after day. …
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Or at least one that is slightly intimidating.
I took on a challenging book this year, and I’m really proud of myself for reading it. I read Les Miserables. Yes, the book that it around 1500 pages long.
I’m not quite sure what led me to read it. I knew that my dad had read it, or so I thought at the beginning of the reading process, I quickly found out that my dad had given up on the story.
That made me nervous.
My dad is very good at reading impressive tomes. I never received that gift. It felt silly that the first one I was going to attempt was one that my dad never managed to finish. I began to dread it, but I was already a portion of the way through, and I had been enjoying it so far, so I decided to go as far as my brain would let me enjoy the story. …
