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My study shouldn’t trigger suicidal thoughts for the sake of artistic analogy.

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My hands are shaking as I type out this article. I’m honestly upset I have to be here, and I’m angry that we are still having conversations about trigger warnings in books in the year 2021.

Let’s get the meat of the story out of the way.

I am a twenty-five-year-old female student who is in the last few months of an English Literature course. I use a website that has a trigger warning section in the reviews to track my books. This trigger warning section though imperfect is generally helpful; fellow readers submit the triggers. …

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A poem about Blackpool and homesickness


It’s not impossible. It can just be hard sometimes.

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Dating can be hard. Getting to know people, figuring out if you’re a good fit and splitting the bills can all be difficult things to negotiate. Add long distance on top of that, and you’re in for a rough ride. Luckily for you, I’ve been in a long-distance relationship and ended up marrying the guy, so you’ve come to the right place for advice.

Long-distance seems to be one of those tricky terms that people tend to disagree on. I’ve had someone who lives half an hour away from their girlfriend tell me that their relationship is long-distance, whereas I…


And how to fix it.

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It’s always hard when you feel like your relationship might be going sour. You’ve chosen to invest time in this person and you might not be ready to cut your losses just yet.

Now I’m a big advocate of working on a relationship and not quitting too early, but that’s only provided that the relationship isn’t causing serious harm to one or both parties.

So while it would be very easy to focus on the negative, that’s not good advice.

While some relationships may need to part ways, a lot of these issues can be worked through. …


How healthy is your relationship really?

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There are lots of good answers to this question, and I don’t have them all. Every relationship is special and has different elements that make it work.

There are, however, three things that tend to feature in every type of healthy relationship. I’ve made a shortlist so that you can focus on the most important parts of building a healthy relationship.

Tweak and adjust each of these areas of advice to fit your own relationship goals.


This one was hard for me at the beginning of my relationship. …

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Top three tips from a marriage that has survived a studio apartment in lockdown

There is lots of advice out there about making it last. The thing about advice is that you can’t make it work for every single couple. It’s hard to nail down what will and won’t work.

Funny how humans can be different like that.

So while there is already tonnes of advice out there, I thought I would add in my two cents worth. So who am I to give you relationship advice? An underqualified individual who survived the first year and a half of marriage in a 30m2 studio apartment with her husband and 29kg dog.

I’m hoping that…

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Do you think you’ve found them? Are you unsure about your choice? Read this.

I wrote an article earlier this month that gave advice about being the right one before you go searching. That being said, a lot of us feel ready to pursue a serious relationship, or we might even be considering our current partner as someone we want to stick with.

First of all, there is nothing wrong with asking the question ‘how do you know?’. Often though we are met with the corny advice ‘You know when you know.’

Except that’s not true.

I’ve dated plenty of people that I thought were ‘The One’ at one point or another and that’s…

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Let’s have a closer look at that job description.

Many of us fall into the trap of believing that once we find ‘the one’ all of our problems will go away. Because we have an unrealistic idea of what a spouse is supposed to do, we can often assign them jobs that don’t actually belong to them.

Having a partner is great, but unfortunately for everyone, no human being is perfect. It turns out that you shouldn’t hold your partner to a standard that you won’t hold yourself to.

Here are some things that your partner shouldn’t be to you.

Your partner isn’t your only friend.

This one seems self-explanatory. You should have a few…

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Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level?

Many of us are familiar with the concept of SWOT analysis. It’s something that is commonly used for personal development or in business environments.

It’s considered a great way to figure out what you’re doing well and what’s not going so great.

That’s why I’m recommending you do one for your romantic relationships. This way, you can take a look at your relationship, see what you are doing well and see what needs work.

Reduce risks to use some fancy business lingo.

So what is a SWOT analysis

For those unfamiliar with the term, a SWOT analysis is a 2x2 grid that lets you examine your…

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How to survive being a world apart

Full disclosure. I am not currently in a long-distance relationship, but my husband and I were so I know how to survive one.

I desperately hoped that by the time I got around to writing this article, it could just be about dating normally in a long-distance relationship. The pandemic had other plans. My procrastination and hope have made this post late, and for that, I am deeply sorry.

Here are some of the things my husband and I did to help survive a long-distance relationship.

Talk every day.

There might’ve been a few days where we skipped this one, but generally, we…

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